Hello, CBA Parents. It is hard to believe we are days away from the start of the semester. Some of you may have sent a child to college already, but for others of you the big transition into a new chapter is almost at hand. I remember vividly taking each of my sons to college. I was happy, sad, afraid, thrilled – all at the same time. As far as your child goes, let me assure you, our staff are ready to help start his/her next chapter, and to ease any apprehensions as well.
Here is a quick article, “Saying goodbye to my child, the youngster
,” from the Washington Post
I found a few years ago about taking your first child to college. It still resonates with me today as I think of all of you who are about to do the same thing.
Below are a few tips about the college drop-off that I have collected over the years, and that were meaningful to me.
· Don’t pass judgement.
It takes all kinds to make the world work, and living independently includes making your own judgements and assessments. Be supportive and neutral about your student’s encounters.
· Let your student do the talking.
Your student is about to be flooded with new names, places and other things to remember. It is his/her responsibility to create a system for keeping it all straight. Take a moment and allow your student to make his/her own decisions and start a new chapter on his/her own terms.
· Prepare for not being completely prepared.
The lists and sticky notes cannot prepare you for every circumstance. Think about building in some extra time to make a run to the store for a few essentials you may have overlooked. A few extra hours of unscheduled time will be quickly absorbed in the rush of the day.
· Goodbyes like Goldilocks & The Three Bears – just right.
Show your honest emotions; it is part of being a parent who loves your child. Kids expect you to feel something, just make sure it fits your relationships. If it helps, have the big goodbye before you leave home where you can have your moment together somewhere a little more quiet.
· Be proud.
Take a second look – maybe after your student has turned away. This is one of your crowning moments as a parent. You are allowed a couple of tears, right?
The doors of CBA communication are always open, and I welcome your messages any time.